am super fricking pissed off.sorry, excuse my obviously inadept french.
I also emailed a copy of that letter to the Dean at the faculty of vet science, to ensure that he actually got it.
Just got email back.
heres what it says
'I'm sorry to hear that you felt that the university did not offer you enough support.However, if you had approached our support staff, I'm sure we could have helped.
We take aligations of abuse very serioiusly, but we are also obliged to look after all parties interests. As you did not make an official complaint to the police, we must treat this as an unsubstantiated alligation, which could seriously have harmed the person in queations career, and his ability to practice Veterinary Medicine. I would assume that you were asked to leave at that time if you were unable to either stop spreading what was regarded as malicious rumours, or to take appropriate action via the poice, as this would indicate that you could have problems adhering to the 'fitness to practice' guidlines'.
The university has clear guidlines on the support which can be offered to students, and im sure help would have been available to you if you had asked.'
I got pissed off at this point and gave up reading this bull****
er excuse me??but I went to my tutor, the university health centre, the dean of the faculty and the welfare adviser and they all treated me as a LIAR.
i cannot even begin to describe how worthless this response makes me feel.
I dont know why i even bothered. I feel sick.And im starting to think, well maybe it is nothing. They obviously think so, so maybe im just being stupid, everyone knows to watch your drink, get your own etc at parties right?i shouldnt have walked off outside on my own. and yeh, maybe i should have just kept my mouth shut.
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Don't let this get to you! Organisations protect their own, and often it's easier for them to deny any wrongdoing than admit the problem and deal with it.
You did a very brave thing by complaining and don't forget that. Other people may well come forward in the future, and the trouble is with complaints, it often takes more than one person to do it before anyone takes action. At least you've set the ball rolling.
The letter I recieved from the NHS said some hurtful things and basically called me a liar, and I was very upset for a long time after recieving it, but there are always positives. You got a response, and you've made them think. Sometimes that's all you can expect from a big organisation who is trying to protect its reputation and members.
This is NOT a personal attack on you, keep your head held high!
Sarah x
thanks chick.
i feel like screaming in frustration-not sure if at myself or stupid poxy Uni.
but why waste my time?not like thay could even be FRICKING WELL DECENT ENOUGH TO READ WHAT I WROTE PROPERLY ARRRGGGGG
sorry teeny bit pissed off.
aww hun, I'm so sorry the stupid idiots can't actually read and respond to you properly. It just goes to show what morons they really are. I have been screwed over before too but in a different way and it really hurts and makes you feel horrible when it doesn happen. I know it's hard to not take it personally and it's even harder when you are angry to let it go. It will probably be some time before your hurt lessens over this because of how deeply it has hurt you. Sarah is right, places like this do like to protect their own. I hope you're okay but I did want to say to you that you are in my thoughts right now and feel free to email me if you need to vent more.
*hugs*
Sarah xxxx
This literally makes me sick to read. This is so outrageous, I honestly can't even find words to describe it. I can't believe that any institution would send out a letter like this. I'm so furious right now.
Don't let this get to you--it is not your fault that these shitholes responded to you this way and you were definitely not wrong to write that letter. They need to know what their behavior caused even if they won't admit or acknowledge it.
Anyway I am furious.
It was so brave of you to write the letter you did, and I commend you for that. The response you got was unfair and I can't imagine how hurtful it must be. I want to scream at the guy for you! Ugh...why are people such ass's sometimes? I hope eventually you can see this as a reflection of how mislead the guy is, and not at all a reflection of YOU. It's NOT nothing. What you went through is horrific, and no doubt it is going to affect you. It's NOT your fault, and you're NOT being stupid. I'm so so sorry not only that this happened to you, but that the response has been so poor. It's not fair. Hang in there, and know that there are people out there who believe you and know that you were in NO way deserving of ANY of this.
they r just protecting themselves, the lady who wrote it probably felt sick inside that she couldnt tell you how sorry she is that it all happened and how sad it must have been and maybe shes quitting her job now cos shes fed up with shit like that. you never know.
iv had a drink spiked too, it happens babe, u cant beat urself up, i have faith in humanity i forget there are soooo many damn creeps in the world. love to you vics, thinking of you. i hope you are ok you are brave to hav rwritten it.
xxx
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